First, thank you to all of you for the kind comments and emails you have sent. I am still on hiatus and won’t be back for a little while but I wanted to make this post. When I’m back I promise to get back to normal and write something really stupid.
To this day one thing my wife keeps asking me is “what the hell made you buy and read a romance novel”? The reason she keeps asking is because it is so unlike me. I am the last man anyone would expect to read romance so when she asks I simply answer that I don’t know because I don’t. I have no idea what made me follow a link to Jessica Scott’s website and buy her book and actually read it. And what I did next is even weirder I emailed Jessica and told her I liked her book. I have never emailed a person I don’t know in my entire life it just isn’t my personality. What is even stranger than that is that email led to a completely unexpected friendship which led me to this blog which led me to all of you and many new friendships. The whole chain of events is still so strange to me and I still ask myself “what made me buy that book?”
When I started this blog I never intended to talk about my sister. Ever. It was too painful and too personal and I didn’t want to talk about it. My brothers and I never discuss her and even my wife and I rarely did. I know what you’re thinking “talking about your sister is too personal but talking about your wife sitting on your face isn’t”? I know but it is a different kind of personal.
This month for some reason my wife and I have been talking about my sister a lot for the firs time. For me it has been a curse and a blessing. A curse because, being sober, it is almost like living through her death for the first time. The pain is awful. It is a blessing because despite the pain I feel a little better for some reason and the internal rage I have been feeling for a longtime is subsiding. But this week the rage fully surfaced and I was mess. That is when I wrote the blog about my sister.
The next day I received an email from Jessica with a subject line “idea”. She suggested that I start a charity to raise money for ovarian cancer and she outlined an idea she had based on what Brenda Novak does for diabetes research. I showed my wife Jessica’s email and we talked about it and my wife and I thought it was a great idea. My wife is one of those annoying types who when she decides to do something doesn’t stop until it’s done. She started researching and reading and came across the University of Pennsylvania website about ovarian cancer research. They are doing great work on early detection tests as well as vaccine research. The problem with ovarian cancer is that there is no way to test for it. With breast cancer we can tell women to get their mammograms and teach them how to do self exams and such but with ovarian cancer you can’t do those things. The only symptoms for ovarian cancer are things like heavy bleeding during your period or bloating but these are things that women experience during their period anyway so they aren’t going to run to the doctor every time they have a heavy period. Even so by the time even those symptoms are showing it is usually too late. The only way to defeat ovarian cancer is with early detection or some kind of vaccine. That is why we have decided that we want to raise money for the University of Pennsylvania.
We are going to start a charity that will be run from our website and it will be similar to what Brenda Novak is doing with her auction house. The problem is it will take a while and we won’t have it done by September which is Ovarian Cancer Awareness month but it will happen. In the meantime I am going to put a tab on this site that links directly to them so people can make donations. Now Brenda Novak is a big time author with big time friends so it is unlikely we can do anything on that scale and the fact is the content of my site will scare off a lot of potential donators. But I have met quite a few authors who I think will help and I am going to ask Sue Grimshaw for help since she is powerful and knows everyone in the industry. I know what you are thinking but I have to start sucking up to her now because I haven’t asked her for help yet. I am going to do my best to turn this into something that raises money and awareness because the fact is 16,000 women a year die from this and all of them have someone who loves them the way I loved my sister.
My wife and I are very grateful to Jessica for her friendship and for giving us this idea and we are very grateful to all of the BBL’s for the love and kindness you have shown us and I know you will help us. I can’t bring my sister back but maybe we can make sure other sisters, daughters and mothers don’t have to leave their families way before it is time. The rage is almost gone and I have a feeling of hope and excitement and I feel like I have something important to do and I finally know why I bought that book.
We all need a purpose. Not sure if I have found mine yet. Awesome that you are going to be able to create something good out of sadness and grief.
Extremely well said, and I'm glad your starting to feel better. I've looked over the various Ovarian cancer sites, and was ready to donate. I will do that now, and when you get your site up and running will of course donate again. It's so rewarding when you can donate in someone's name.
You have SO many authors, friends, the BBL's , and people who just want to laugh. I don't think you will have any problems raising money!
So glad to see you here, even for just a hello, and we'll be here when your ready to come back! XOXO
This post really made my day and weekend. This is such an incredible project that both you and Lexie are creating in honor of your sister. I'm smiling so big for you right now. You needed a focus and a purpose and you found it. Bravo my friend, bravo!
"We must accept finite disappointment, but we must never lose infinite hope." ~Martin Luther King Jr.
RM, my heart goes out to you for your loss. I think what you are doing is great. I understand the rage you have felt. This past Monday we'd the 10th anniversary of my oldest daughter's death from complications wit. h a bone marrow transplant. She was only 5, but taught me so much about love and courage. I will gladly support your efforts by contributing. Hang in there. It does get easier with time although some days the pain will bitch slap you up side the head.
I like the idea of doing something like Brenda Novak's charity. I'm sure it didn't happen over night. However, I'm sure that you can find the help to raise awareness. You can look at the Susan B. Komen foundation and it started cause of a family member died of breast cancer. Anything is possible when you put your heart into. Now a days you have more resources on reaching out with Facebook and Twitter. I think it's a great idea.
Wow, RM, what a great idea. Not sure if I can donate from Canada, but if not, I will donate to the Canadian equivalent in your sisters name!
Talking about painful things is a lot like working out a splinter that's been festering. It hurts like hell, but the resulting wound is a clean sort of pain that you know will heal up eventually.
My thoughts are with you and your family.
Oh RM, I forgot to tell you, don't worry about OUR iPad , she's being well taken care of till your back! ~~hugs~~
This is a great idea. I'm in.
<3,
-J
YES!! That is a fantastic idea. I too feel the need to be part of something like this. At the risk of bringing back a sorrowful subject, I have to say that my best friend died Wednesday night of uterine carcinosarcoma (MMMT). She was diagnosed only 5 months ago, and responded not at all to chemo or radiation. I was able to be with her on Wednesday, and exchange "I love you's" with her before she slipped away, but I want to DO SOMETHING!! There have to be changes in the way we diagnose and treat gynocological cancers. I want to be a part of that. I'll donate, and do anything else I can to help.
What a excellent idea and way to funnel that anger and hurt. I am so proud of you guys! I believe it was totally fate that made you buy that book. Keep us updated and PLEASE take care. See (read) you soon!
~Plus thank you to Jessica Scott for a fabulous recommendation ☺
RM – you made me smile. I am glad you were able to talk to Lexie more this past month. Just buying one little book is going to help a bunch of people – your sister is so proud.
We will be here after your hiatus.
It sure is amazing what a little romance can do.
I'll help anyway that I can.
Glad your doing better. See you soon.
I am so glad you finally got to the point that you are feeling better. And i love that you and your wife really 'talk' and decide stuff together. Great idea Jessica and well done RM & Lexie for taking it on. Its a great cause.
I'm glad you bought that book and will do whatever it takes to spread the word once your plan is up and running. Any type of cancer is effed up and it is horrific to have to watch a loved one deteriorate from the inside out of cancer. But ovarian cancer sounds way scarier than any other type of cancer. I want to help fight it in any way I can.
Awesome idea! I'd be happy to help in anyway I can.
So glad to hear you have been able to let go of some of your anger and move toward healing. Take care of yourself and your family. Hope to see you back soon.
"Find a place inside where there's joy and the joy will burn out the pain"- Joseph Campbell
What an incredible idea! The first year, you may not reach Brenda Novak proportions, but authors love to help a cause.
It is such a terrific way to remember a strong and wonderful woman, yet help others who may not be aware of their condition.
I'll be more than willing to help spread the word when you have it ready to rock! I happen to know a few authors who can put something together to bring in the money:)
What a wonderful idea! I'm so glad you guys are even considering this. I will help if you need it. You have been a blessing just being here and then bringing all of us together. Times might be hard right now and it is totally understandable. Heal, love and cherish your girls! Miss you, but talk all the time you need.
RM, your stuff is never stupid!
Ridiculous, hilarious, absurd, soft, sweet, angry, insightful, naughty, lovey, but never stupid. This is a great idea. Glad you are feeling better.
Sounds like a cathartic and positive week RM, so glad you are getting some of that out so it doesn't fester. Like you've said on other topics, talking is vital.
Love the charity idea, so glad you picked up Jessica's book and that you ended up here.
RM—SO glad to 'hear' your voice and that you are doing ok. I believe there is a reason for everything we do in this life and there was definitely someone or something guiding you that day you picked up Jessica's book. I believe you are exactly where you should be at this point in your life, doing exactly what you should be doing. The charity is a wonderful idea and I will support you and Lexie in any way I can
Thought about you today & wondering how you were.
Glad to see this anniversary is a turning point for you. Gives you purpose & her memory will inspire you.
Scarlet – I was thinking the exact same thing! It's awesome and inspiring.
What a wonderful idea! And glad to read you're doing better. Hope it will garner all the attention it deserves!
A doctor in my hometown started the "Think Pink" for breast cancer awareness and it has spread all over the country – big things come from little ideas and this is going to be a big one! Perhaps you could pick your sister's favorite color and ask everyone to wear that color on a certain day as a remembrance for the awareness of ovarian cancer? We can all spread the word on our FB pages to all of our friends!
RM, I lost a good friend to ovarian cancer. She was gone from us in under four months from the time she was diagnosed. I'm just grateful the idea resonated with you and like I've mentioned, sign me up on the volunteer list. I'm confident the charity will be an impressive success!
Hang in there, brother.
Remember. Asking for help is not weakness and you are not alone.
"and the fact is the content of my site will scare off a lot of potential donators."
God, I hope not. Just because we curse and talk about sex doesn't mean we don't love our sisters, mothers, daughters, aunts . I hope anyone we tell about your charity has the compassion to see suffering and donate and not be judgmental. I'm going to think positive and believe that people will do the right thing. And maybe I'll twist a few arms.
God had a reason for you buying that book, you're just now starting to understand the "why" of it.
Yes, Bravo to you and your wife working through this.
And having been in prior relationships with addicts (yes, I suck cause that's plural) you now will be living through your memories of your sister with a clear mind instead of it being foggy with substance. Now that is wonderful. Relive those memories with joy knowing that she loved you just as much
I'd love to help! Just let me know. I'll donate some books.
I read your post about your sister and it really touched me. Kudos to you for keeping up with your sobriety. I know it's hard.
RomanceMan, I am so proud and excited that you found a positive way of expressing your love for your sister.
I am so glad that you are working through this dark time and are on the other side of it. Looking forward to hearing from you.
You and Lexie have a good weekend and a good Memorial Day!
Just adding my agreement to all the comments. So good to see you coming out of that emotional blackness that has weighed you down. The fund-raising idea for ovarian cancer is inspired. I'm on board too.
And remember, RM, one man's "stupid" is another man's "genius". So write whatever you want whenever you can. We love you.
Well stated, RM. I'm sorry about your sister. I lost my mom to pancreatic cancer, which like ovarian, shows up when it's often too late to be treated. A good friend of mine is now fighting ovarian cancer but doing well, thankfully. Let us know how we can support the cause. Hugs!
You, sir, are a peach, a true hero, a warrior prince. And this is a wonderful idea.
Bravo, the more money and awareness raised about ovarian cancer the better. Good on you for taking some positive action.
RM and Lexie – Thinking of you today – I hope something today brings a smile to your faces.
To my RMFriends – have a great weekend
This is a great idea, RomanceMan. Ovarian cancer is a terrible, silent killer, and too, too many women are not aware of it and its devastating effects. Count me in on volunteering for this project.
Popping in to say hi to all. Hope your Saturday is good. I believe its a long weekend in the US? enjoy.
RM & Lexie, hoping you have a good weekend too.
Hi Luci…missed you last few days! HI RM, and Lexie. I knew you would get the Ladies whole heartedly backing you. So, when your ready to come back, we're ready to work. No hurry, take your time, We're here. <3
Hope everyone has a safe and enjoyable Memorial Day… Remember our men and women in uniform!
Hey Pat, I have been very busy at work then am so tired i start dozing off on my laptop. Hope you have a great weekend.
What a wonderful idea! Brenda's auction began slow and small and it's now a huge event with authors and others in the industry donating items from all over for her auction. I've donated a full set of my books every year, and it always amazes me how much bidders are willing to pay for something they could get for half the amount at the store–people want to help, and this is a wonderful way to give them that opportunity.
Count me in.
That is an absolutely wonderful idea!
Hellooo, hope your having a nice holiday weekend with Lexie and the girls….
Juts wanted to say hi…….. ~~hugs~~
Hey RM, Lexie, Pat and all. Hope you have a serene long weekend.
Good morning Pat & Luci, RM & Lexie.
Thinking of you all this weekend! Breath deep and relax.
Good Morning. Yes, I know, its almost noon, but the long sleep was wonderful!
RM, Lexie, have a wonderful long weekend, Pat, Luci, Kiki, Lily, I'm thinking of all ya'll!!
I hope you are having some wonderful family time.
I read your post about your sister not long after it went live and besides the unbelievable sadness I felt for you, and a little bit for me because I've never felt that close to any member of my family, I had the same thought that Jessica did about you channeling your energy into raising money and awareness. I didn't comment then, thinking that you probably didn't need my two cents, but I'm super glad that someone did say it. It's infinitely clear from your post that you loved your sister and from what little I learned about her life, it seems obvious that she would not want you to continue being destructive to yourself or your family. Think of the legacy you can leave for her and all the good it could potentially do for others and the amazing role model you can be for your girls. I remember one of the first posts where you said something like only 3 people were reading you. Now look. If you can do that, you can do anything. I believe in you.
Kris, loved reading your words. Well done.
See RM, now you have at least, I dont know, maybe 5 or 6 people reading.
And at least one person reading you on an Ipad.
Thinking of you and Lexie.
Celebrate Memorial Day everyone.
Kris: interesting that you would post this. I was just thinking this today, maybe at the same time you were. I don't have that closeness with my family either. I REALLY appreciate that someone is willing to allow me to see their love for others. It gives me hope for humanity.
Enjoy this beautiful day. Sending positive energy out to everyone
An auction is a wonderful idea! I lost my sister to ovarian cancer three years ago this month, she was my best friend. I would love to participate in an online auction dedicated to ovarian cancer, it's a horrible disease that most people have very little awareness of. Hope I can participate from up here in Canada as well.
Its not a long weekend here; ours was last weekend. Still, I hope everyone stays safe these days…the weather is gorgeous, but please take care of you and yours!
Thinking of all of you, and especially RM and Lexie!
My best friend from high school's mum died from ovarian cancer and even though she wasn't my mum, I still felt the loss. And, I know my friend does too, every day. Good on you RM. Hope you raise squillions.
This is a wonderful way to honor your sister and help towards the battle that will eventually demolish ovarian cancer. Don't think your sister doesn't know what her beloved brother is now doing. She not only knows…..she's helping. How do you know that it wasn't your sister who prompted you to read that first romance novel? Each step of this which you've pledged yourself to: feel it and let it work to help YOU heal. Loved ones are never forgotten and the pain eases into sweet memories.
God Morning RM and Lexie! Hope your having an enjoyable Memorial Day!
RM, thank your for your service to our country.
Just wanted to say my daily hello…. <3
Bongu RM, Lexie, Pat, Kiki, LG and all. Touching base. Hope you are all doing ok
Happy Memorial Day! RM and the Family I hope you are having a great weekend start to your Summer. My kiddos still have 3 weeks left.
All veterans and their families Thank You!
Good morning Pat, Luci and everyone else around. RM and Lexie, Just stopping by to say hi. Thinking of you guys and hoping you are having a nice weekend. Miss you =).
Good morning everyone, Pat, Luci, Scarlet, Lady G, Lily and RM & Lexie,
Thank you for your service, RM.
Have a good memorial day everybody.
Over 30 years ago, when I was a teenager, I visited Lexington and Concord in Massachusetts. Inscribed on a plaque on the Old North Bridge to mark where some British soldiers died are these lines from James Russell Lowell's poem:
They came three thousand miles and died,
to keep the past upon its throne:
Unheard, beyond the ocean tide,
their English Mother made her moan.
April 19, 1775
Those words have never left me. I was so moved by the thought of mothers grieving for sons thousands of miles away. The cost of war is always tragic. On Memorial Day, my heart goes out to all the families who have lost someone in a war, my thanks to those who served, especially those who were lost, and my wish is for peace, for all of us.
Hello everyone. I hope that this holiday is bringing peace to those who yearn for it, joy to those who want that, and a dang good time for everyone else. This holiday is double-edged; mourning the lost soldiers is sad, but backyard beer and barbeques are great!
RM, so glad that the tropical storm missed your area, and looks like it didn't quite make it to Pat's region either!
Have a great evening!
Good morning…it's me…
Here's your occasion to laugh at me. Scarlet made me this beautiful wreath for my front door, with my favorite color in the flowers…purple. I was coming In from gettting the mail the other day, and looked closer, and there was a tiny nest with five blue eggs!!! I know it wasn't there when I hung it! Now it has a little tiny bird sitting on it! I won't let anyone come in our front door, so we won't disturb her!!, All my husb. can think of is when they hatch, there's going to be s**t all over the door! Had a feeling you would feel that way too RM. What do you think Lexie? Diane suggested I find a way to put a little video camera, so we could watch them hatch. That Diane is always thinking…got to love her!!!
Well, that's my laugh for you today. Hope it makes you smile……Miss you, will be here tomorrow….. XO
Pat! I had wondered about your nest.
That is so cool. Well, not cool that you cant use your front door! haha I hope you will take pictures here and there so we can see the progress. And all because of Scarlets beautiful wreath! haha
Good morning everyone! Thinking of you RM & Lexie.
Pat! Your hubby is too funny! I think all of our men would say the same thing
. I'm so glad you and the little birdie family are enjoying the wreath 
. I love to make 'em so if anyone is interested I'd be glad to make some…sorry RM. I'm soliciting business on your blog =).
Hey Kiki! Hey RM and Lexie! I'm really missing you guys!
RM-
Thanks for updating us! I agree totally, I think the fundraising idea for research is a great idea, it allows you to channel your grief and love into something that will help others and I am sure your sister would totally approve and tell you (with whatever term of endearment or non endearment she used for you) "okay <term> that makes up for the time that you blurted out to mom and dad that I wasn't at the library but was my boyfriend or the time you refused to allow me to dress you up like Heather Locklear in practice for getting ready for my prom with a big smile on her face….". I think she would be even more happy that you are able to grieve for her for the first time really, and also that you are able to reach out to others and tell your story and heal that way, too:)
I also don't think you would have to worry about turning off readers on here if you do your fundraising idea through here. The people on this site are a unique group of people, they are a community of sorts, and all of us I suspect have stories and lives where we understand that life brings its chuckles and little joys (like finding a great romance book) and also brings a lot of things that kick us in the gut, knock us down, and anything that can help someone else either not get kicked in the first place or help them get up off the mat after being kicked is going to be fully supported, I would bet pretty good money on that. You can at least count on my support for what its worth, and given how statistically odd I am among your devoted readers, that means you are going to be blown away by the statistical majority on here.
PS
I have an answer to your wife's question, what made you pick up a romance novel? I can answer that in my case for the initial book (my wife started asking me to read them, to see if I found the same things she had, that there are some real damn good reads among them, and she was right) but I think the real answer lies in why I kept reading them. Romance novels, the modern incarnation of them, are written to tug at the reader's emotions, they have pathos and humor and love and death and sadness and happiness (and kick ass male and female characters to boot), and I think what makes them work for me is I feel for the characters, I feel emotions, anger and sadness and happiness and the old "woo, too, the rough and tumble guy the gal fell for just kicked the crap out of the abusive ex husband/loony mob guy obsessed with his girlfriend after killing her husband/investment banker, yeah!" and the like. More importantly, if my example holds, they often let us get in touch with our own feelings about really tough feelings we have, they kind of force us to explore our own issues. In a sense they are the anti drug, instead of dulling the feelings a story can force us to explore the issues in a safe way (since it is only a story). Maybe picking up that book was something's way of getting you on the path to healing (call it your own subconscious, God, Goddess, divine wind, universe, whatever). Sometimes of course a story is just a story, but often I find my emotions opened up with these stories, especially ones where the characters are at an age and place of life where I find myself, can be very heart wrenching when life takes it toll in the stories and if the ending is a happy one, the joy is there, too (books that end up in the air or where it isn't so sunny, which is not most romance novels thankfully, leave me feeling bummed for a stretch). Joseph Campbell and Jung talk about the power of stories and archetypes to unlock things in ourselves and romance novels are doing just that I believe:)
Great post NJBill!
Hey Scarlet beautiful wreath! Pat, in my family I would be the one worrying about the s**t all over the door.
RM & Lexie hope you are getting lots of quality time together. Missing your posts and comments.
Wrote a post and it said it was being submitted and will be posted shortly. Never happened to me before.
Good Morning!!
NJBill, your comment just blew me away. Thats exactly what romance novels do for me. Allow me to feel emotions that I've shut away. YOU are very perceptive and articulate.
Its a bright, sunny day here, not too warm, so it'll be a good day to be off
Hello Everyone! It's so hot here in the tropic.
I hope everything is ok and getting better.
Hi! Kiki, Luci: did you get to see the movie?
NJBill: you just put into words what I feel about romance novels and I think what I like the most is that I can study those feelings safely because they are on paper, so to speak.
I love the new idea, I'm totally in.
Grettel, I haven't watched it yet. Kiki did though.
Nice job, NJBill!
We both liked it very much. Funny and interesting. I would tell everyone to go see it.
Grettel, yes, we did go see it. Husband did not know what we were seeing ahead of time.
Hey Luci, Pat, Scarlet!! I am so glad to check here every day and see you guys and so many others!!
RM, Lexie, hope you are using the quality time, getting the help you need and not rushing anything. Thinking of you.
great post NJBill
RM and Lexie thinking of you
Hey NJ Bill, another thoughtful commentary from a guy about romance novels. Thanks for posting. Hope everyone had a great Memorial Day.
I watched our local parade. When the American Flag passed by, I stood with a lump in my throat and my right hand over my heart. But I saw a bunch of guys with beer bellies across the street sitting on their fat asses with cans in their hands (hope it wasn't beer that early in the morning!) laughing and drinking and SITTING! I wanted to cross the street and kick them 'cuz they were disrespecting the Flag.
Good Morning! We're getting a visit from Beryl today. LOTS of wind and rain!
Not going anywhere, I'm just going to read, and try not to eat junk!!!
Miss you……….. Pat.. <3
Good Morning! This is my day to read, too. Wish it was pouring rain like at Pat's house
RM, Lexie, miss you 
Rainy days are always wonderful for reading, arent they? Very rare here. Same for you, Lady G, isnt it? So I decided that sunny days are reading days! LOL
Good morning everyone!! Pat, glad the storm is not too bad for you.
Enjoy the rest of your wonderful family trip, Scarlet!
Hope your work day has been a good one, Luci!
Thoughts of strength for you RM & Lexie.
Good morning, all. Just checking in briefly before going off line to write. I've hit what I consider my "manic phase" in writing a book–the point where I really can't get away from it. Worked until two, was up around six–it's 8:30 here and I've just about gotten through my mail. Need more coffee, but I've been catching up on posts and have to say I really enjoyed NjBill's comments–and I LOVE the bird nest in the wreath!
Must get to work, but I love seeing all your posts coming through my email in the morning. Hi RM and Lexie!
Hello everyone. It's been great to see everyone still chatting it up. Just wanted to say hi and miss you all. I've been loving all the wonderful comments.
Hey everyone!
We had some rain here last night – thank goodness it washed away the pollen.
My kiddos are about to finish the school year which gets me thinking of Summer Reads…what is the book you are saving to read during your Summer Vacation?
Hey PAt, Kiki LG and all., My day os coming to an end. Its summer weather here. Hope the storm is not too bad Pat.
RM I see you are back on Twitter, hope you are feeling at peace with yourself. Hiya Lexie, miss you!
My good friend is shaving her head Sunday to raise money for our local Cancer Center. She is AMAZING! I'm lucky enough to get to be a volunteer at her event. Check her out on fb at A Million Strands of Hope and on youtube at http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tsywPAyQywk&feature=share
Good luck RM! I can't wait to spread the news to all my friends about your charity.
Mceckk its work as usual for me even though kids finish school so no particular summer reads but at the top of my tbr list is Ride with Me because i haven't managed to read it yet. What's the book you are saving?
Mceckk…what is this, "saving a book?" LOL! I read them as fast as I get them. I'm never without a book, buy way too many and read all the time. Of course, since I'm an author I can call it research and therefore avoid any feelings of guilt.
I love to read. It's my therapy, my entertainment, my education and the thing that makes me happy. I can't imagine a life without books.
Reading has turned into my therapy and I have about 200 on my Nook now waiting to be read – whenever I find one on Cheap-EReads that I think I would like I download it for later – and then read what I am in the mood for. Sometimes my reading habits are dictated by when I get notified by the library that the e-book I am waiting for is available for download. That happened today – Finally got notice to download Almost Perfect by Susan Mallery and the #3 Richard Castle Nicki Heat book – so that is what I will read the next few days.
I save a book when there is one I really want to read and I "save" it for when I can have some time to devote to reading and not doing anything else!
For Example – I saved Kathy Reich's Flash & Bones for a plane trip I knew I was taking a month after it was released.
The week I am on vacation at the beach – Irene Hannon's latest is coming out and I can't wait. I also think I will keep Linda Lael Miller's Big Sky Country for that week too because I love Cowboys!
I read according to my mood. So i have loads of paperbacks and ebooks on my Kindle but believe it or not sometimes i don't find what to read. If i am in the mood for a medieval I'd better have one in my tbr piles or unread ebooks
. Finished Marie Force's Fatal Flaw and am in the mood for another very good romantic suspense for eg.
Mceckk, I know what you mean. I do that too. But it never seems to work as I planned! LOL I have so many books and continue to get more. Its like a sickness! But I figure I will always have something to read.
Luci, I am so glad your reading slump appears to be over!!
Steffanie, I hope your friend is proud of herself!! and I am sure she is gorgeous!!
Hello out there to everyone! Keep moving forward! Thinking of you, RM & Lexie.
Hi Luci, and all! It's a beautiful day here, making up for all the days of rain, but HOT. Momma and eggs seem to be doing fine! RM and Lexie,
Gina has named her book!! Seducing Cinderella! She expects it out in June or July…can't wait! Hope your enjoying the kids home for the summer.
Just saying HI!! ~~waving~~.
Hi Rm, Lexie, everyone **waving**
Its not erotic, but its a great paranormal, good vs. evil with alternate dimensions and demons and Lemurians. Its awesome! Ok, off to read now. Have a good day 
I have learned that alot of those ebooks that are free reads are very short. I like stories with more development than I get in those. Also, if the author is very good, then it is disappointing that it is a short story. I finally started Kate Douglas DemonSlayers series. I waited, cuz I knew when I started it, I wouldn't be able to put it down. Yep, I can't put it down
Lucci – Love Marie Force – I am over on her FB page and we have book discussions if you want to join in..
Lady G – the free books I find are listed for a day or two on Cheap e-reads and are full length books – sometimes they also have very deeply discounted books
RM and Lexie – thinking of you!
Thanks, LG! So glad you're enjoying the series. That was my first (and probably last!) foray into "mainstream" paranormal (Not erotic) because, unfortunately, sales were abysmal. Readers who know me want the erotic stuff, and readers who have heard me but don't read erotic didn't buy it because they thought it might be. Ya can't win!
Back to work on the current WIP. And yep, it's sexy!
Thanks Mceckk. Will check it out. I have her friended on fb but since i havent read all of her books i didnt join this group when it was originally created.
I believe that Happy Birthday wishes are in order for Luci and Gina.
Happy Birthday ladies!
Happy Birthday to Gina, 21 again!!!! LOL…..love ya…
Morning RM and Lexie, here we are at another Friday! Hope you have plans for a fun weekend. HOT here in N.C. Miss you LOTS……. I know, I'm a pest, but I'm here!!! XOXO
Happy birthday Gina!
Good morning Pat! You could never be a pest—you are the sweetest =).
Morning RM and Lexie. Have a great weekend!
Lucci – I haven't read everything either – but I am part of the her Book Club we are reading the #3 in the Gansett series and then on Sunday someone will post questions to that books FB fan page and we have a great time discussing. That goes on for the week and then on Sunday 6/10 we start reading Gansett #4 – come join if you want.
Happy Weekend Everyone! And Happy Birthday to the Birthday people.
Lexie and RM have a great weekend!
Hey Diane, thanks for thinking of me but you are a month early
. Mine is not that 1st of July.
Happy Birthday Gina!! Hope you have a great day.
Morning RM and Lexie and all!
I'm also popping in to check up on everyone. I'm reading a library book, books for 2 contests I'm judging, and one I purchased for my Nook. Plus I have about a hundred TBR. I'm glad everyone is still saying hey until RM and Lexie return.
And, I just noticed, we now have dates. It shows up with each comment.
Anyway, between reading and gardening, I'm having lots of fun. Not so much my sister, though, She's 70+ and took a tumble Wednesday evening from her porch steps and I had to take her to the emergency room for stitches and a CT scan. Five hours later I was able to take her home, and she spent a quiet day yesterday, so no lasting damage. Prayers on her behalf welcome.
Well, Luci, at least I am not late. I will change JUN to JUL on the little cheat sheet I am trying to compile and I will try again next month!
Pat, we could change the L to a P from the BBL. Since I think we are all on here!! LOL But I am with Scarlet, you are never a pest.
Happy birthday to who ever is having a birthday!
Cris, I hope your sister takes it easy and continues to improve!
Good morning, Luci, LG and everyone else.
Keep at it, RM & Lexie…..:-)
Good Afternoon! Its 107 degrees here; wow it is an oven out there! Happy Birthday Gina! write, write, write! RM and Lexie, have a fun weekend with the kids:) Are they out of school yet? My niece's last day of 8th grade was Wednesday. Wednesday nite she crashed her bike into another bike and fell and sprained her ankle. **sigh** at least it isn't broken
Have a great day everyone
Hi Luci !!!
Hi everyone, it's officially winter here now, and we have a fire going. High in the mid-fifties.
Cris, I hope your sister recovers quickly!
I'm bopping around in my reading, rereading Wolf Tales !V, really enjoying Thea Harrison's Elder Races series – Serpents Kiss at the moment, interspersed with some novellas and freebie contemporaries- really enjoyed Marie Force's The Fall and Georgia on My Mind.
I'm also typing up a photocopy of a photocopy of a recipe notebook of my great aunts– it's in spanish, a poor copy AND the right side of the sheets cut off varying amounts of text…. but its a puzzle I'm enjoying– I figured out that "avra" as a measurement must refer to ounces (as in avoirdupois vs troy ounces) that was really confusing me " WTH are 9 avras de azucar(sugar)?" The kicker is that my cousin in spain is stressed cause she lost her copy after copying it for me…
Hope you are all enjoying basking in the heat
… 10 days and counting
Every time I visit, you always manage to get some kind of tears out if me. *shaking head with a smile* You are one strong man to survive all this and come out fighting and now using all this for a good cause. It's people like you and like Ms. Novak and Jessica that can And will make a difference!
You are blessed to have had such a relationship with your sister, with your wife family and all these new friends and followers who will support you and your cause!!!
Blessings to you and your family.
~Angela
Morning RM, Lexie and all, I know most of you are sleeping but i have a busy day and a wedding tonight so i am touching base now. Hope you all have a great Saturday.
MJ, I stopped a quarter through Serpent's Kiss. I really enjoyed the first books then this one was going too slow for me. I need books to be faster paced, more action, more dialogue, less 'thinking' over and over and over. Does it pick up? I am not a huge paranormal fan so once i put the book down i haven't had the urge to pick it back up.
Hi…..as one of those three people reading your blog WAY BACK THEN, just wanted you to know me and OUR iPad , are here…….
……..
Hope you and Lexie have a great weekend with the girls. Miss you. <3
Happy Birthday Scarlet! Hope you are enjoying your time with your family!
Happy Birthday, Scarlet!! Hope it is a wonderful day surrounded by love and fun.
Good job!! 
MJ, you are down to 9 days now!
Luci, I hope you are feeling better and having a great time. If you need any smiles, I know Crazy Granny can post some pictures for that! Hope you, your husband and your pink toes are dancing the night away.
Hey Pat!! Watching the nest and the ipad!
Have a great weekend RM, Lexie and everybody.
Hope you have a wonderful day Scarlet! Happy Birthday!!
Nothing real going on here. Last day of school was yesterday, last T-ball game was today for my 5 year old, Little League is over for my 9 year old because of his broken foot. The cast comes off in 11 days – I can't wait! Just been reading and writing. Hope you all are doing well!
Thinking of you Romance Man and Lexie!!
Luci, if you don't love paranormal, no reason to read it…. There are genres that don't float my boat either, altho I'll read them if written by an author I LOVE. the idea of Steampunk leaves me cold, but I read Moira Rogers Bloodhounds series grudgingly because they wrote it and I'm enjoying it. I've finished Serpents Kiss and the next 2 novellas and am just starting on Oracle's Moon, I really ilke them but guess they are just not your thing
Scarlet!!! its's your birthday?!!!!!!!!HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!!!! I'm also a June baby
Hi everyone !! RM, Lexie!!!!!
Happy Birthday Scarlet!!
Pssst Lexie, I just sent you a review, by e-mail!!!
Thank you all for the birthday wishes! You guys are the best! Had a great day with my family =).
I think we are going to need an Arc up here in New England…sadly it rained out my son's bday event…no go carts in a monsoon!
Hi Everyone I hope you are enjoying your weekend!
RM & Lexie thinking of you!
Hi, everyone. Kate, I'm sorry to hear that the Demonslayers series didn't sell well. I loved it, but you are right, its not your usual genre. It sure was fun!
I am a June baby as well – later in the month.
Wow, lots of June babies – I am one too!
MJ i loved the first two books so it wasnt the genre that was the problem. They have too many 'thoughts' that slow the book down. I was wondering if it speeded up somewhat.
Morning all! Have a great Sunday!
Checking In…
RM & Lexie I hope you are able to have a nice lazy Sunday
Good morning all. Had to laugh-skimming through posts and went, 'huh? It's SUNDAY?' and then I glanced at the little date thingy on my computer and had a "holy SHIT!!! It's JUNE?" moment. Scarlet, sorry I missed your birthday. Hope it was a good one. And MJ, do hope you like Wolf Tales IV. When I wrote Tinker's story, I didn't realize it was one of the first fully interracial romances (with a male hero who is African American–as well as a shapeshifter) who falls in love with a white woman. I didn't even think about that part until I was finishing up and one of my writer friends asked me if my publisher was okay with that. I had a "WTF" moment because I was so much in love with Tinker that I figured everyone would be.
He went on to become a very popular character in the series. I will be SO glad when we can stop worrying about race or gender identity or any of that and just write stories about people who fall in love. I mean, obviously you have to put them through hell to make for a good story, but then I figure the least you can do is give them that "happily ever after" ending!
Going back to work. Hope all is well with everyone. RM and Lexie–hi to you and yours as well. Enjoy the rest of the weekend. And June. Sheesh. How'd it get here so fast?
Look at the pretty lady. Why is your picture showing up but no one else?
Hi! RM and Lexie, have a great Sunday with the kids
Yep, it is June and the temperature here is oven temps
Hi everybody….beautiful day here in N.C. Hanging out, doing some…(COVER YOUR EARS RM.) …….laundry.
Lazy day, reading and sitting on our back porch. I agree Kate….how is it June?????
Just my usual hello, Lexie and RM………..miss you…. XO
Just dropping a line to say hello to the ladies, RM, and Lexie! Hope everyone is doing well. Having the inlaws over for a cookout today. My Mom has temporary custody of my great niece and things are going pretty well in life in general. Take care everyone!
Mceckk – i joined the Marie Force group if you want to give me a poke
. If you prefer not to no worries.
Its hot here we are in full summer mode. August is going to be a killer.
Enjoy your Sunday RM, Lexie and all.
RM I think this is great I. Am disabled spend a lot of time at home so if there is anything I can do to help let me know. Thanks for sharing your sister story, It makes you stop and think and be grateful for your loved ones
Hey RM and Lexie. Hope you guys had a great weekend. I am eagerly awaiting your return RM. Miss you =).
Good Morning Everyone! Rainy Days and Mondays are not my cup of tea!
RM and Lexie – I bet you are in full mode of Kids on Summer Vacation…that is me in 10 days…
LuLu – I have no idea how to poke hehe – are you on the Marie Force Fan page or did you join us on the book club this week – we are discussing Ready to Fall – Luke and Sydney's story.
Another wet, wet day here in the NYC area, the last couple of weeks have been an occasional glimpse of the sun then a lot of gray and gloom and we have gone from summer back to early spring (though not all is lost, the roses in our rose garden are very happy, they must think they are in England or something.
Spent this weekend finishing putting up a screen enclosure for our back patio that actually is more like another room on the house, it will be nice to sit out on a summer night and not have to face the wrath of the NJ state bird aka the mosquito if out after dusk. It turned out to be really nice, but was one of those projects that took a lot longer then I thought it would, required a lot of custom fabrication because I was putting it on a gravel patio, and it had the absolutely worst instructions I have ever seen, including compared to Japanese car service manuals from the early 1970's…among other things, they didn't include basic dimensions for where to mount things and they don't explain how to put on the vinyl roof that is 11×15 and heavy , I had to extrapolate using dimensions they gave on the Sam's Club website, and somehow it all came together:) I guess I actually have learned a thing or two over the years, my dad would be proud I finally not only can curse like him but I actually can get it done after literally a lot of blood, sweat, tears and bumps, bruises and muscle strains. The product itself is actually a decent product, surprisingly, decent hardware and such, which usually isn't the rule with these things.
Had a great start to the weekend, on a spur of the moment decision I bought tickets for a NY Mets game last week and had my son meet me in the city…and it turned into a gem, it was Friday night's game where the Mets had their first no hitter pitched in their 50 year history, the rain didn't fall and we had really, really good seats. I don't know what was better, being at a game like that that is a once in a lifetime thing, or sharing it with my serious -musician- to- be -crossed -with -a -sports-nut son who far too soon will probably be too busy to share things like this with me all that often; right now he is at the pefect age, can have my wife put him on the bus, meet me in the city and we can go and enjoy:). (It also was in some ways repeating family history; my parents when they were dating played hooky from work, literally getting off the subway mid commute from the Bronx to Manhattan after daring each other, and were at the famous 1951 playoff game between the NY Giants and Dodgers when Bobby Thomson hit his home run to win it)
In terms of reading, haven't been doing a lot, but to make myself feel better been re-reading Linda Howard's Blair Mallory books (To Die For, Drop Dead gorgeous) to make myself feel a bit better when the gloom and stress get too much, and I think Blair is my fictional soul sister or something:)
NJbill, I just had to laugh about the NJ state bird being the mosquito. I'm just across the Delaware River into PA and I agree, those migrating SOBs bite like crazy. I can be out for 5 minutes and come back with 3 new itchy spots, day or evening. OTOH, my sister never gets bitten. Go figure.
I'm on pins and needles waiting for my editor's "yea" or "nay" on a book I submitted on April 30. It's a sequel to my "Punishment and Mercy", set in 1694 Massachusetts Bay Colony. The characters are reincarnated from the earlier story into the present day. It's driving me crazy waiting! And yeah, both are erotic romances *grin*
We've had lots of rain here as well, but the grass is healthy (double-edged sword here; I have to cut it more often) and my tomatoes are thriving. I've put in some Ramapo tomatoes, which for twenty years had been missing from growers' offerings. Rutgers, the NJ State University with a great agricultural school, was able to rescue this heirloom from obscurity and last year I finally found them locally as seedlings. They were the best tasting tomatoes I've ever, ever grown. Looking forward to more lucscious deliciousness this summer.
This Wednesday I'll be in New York City (wo)manning the Ellora's Cave booth at BookExpo America. Imagine an old broad tugging a suitcase wandering around NYC trying to hail a taxi from Penn Station LOL. From 2:00-4:00pm I'll be signing giveaways of Dance of the Seven Veils, the first book in my Dance series. If anyone is there, please stop in and say hello.
Good Morning everyone! Sounds like everyone is in summer for real except MJ who is in winter and still counting down the days. You are at about 6 days now? I am reading and trying to finish the never ending baby blanket fringe! haha Cris, I would love to come to a book show like that sometime. I bet it is great! Scarlet, I know you are glad to be home.
Just a shout out to Luci, Pat, everyone. And RM & Lexie, have a great week.
Hello!!!! RM, I just saw you post on FB, a twitter about hugging! watch out…I'm a hugger! But, I'll wait till your ready to write it.
You know , Rm, I love OUR iPad, but sometimes it respells things for me, and puts capitals where I really don't want them. I really appreciate the help, but sometimes I want to spell it my own way!! Oh well, that's my hello for today…..{{{hugs}}}. ( snicker) ~~~
ARGH typed and got the red message that it didn't go thru…try again…
Cris and NJBill – one phrase – "Mosquito Magnet" best money I ever spent!
This rain is wrecking havoc on our baseball and softball schedules – please go somewhere else!
RM can't wait to read your thoughts on Huggers – maybe your cape makes everyone think you are that much more approachable…hehe
Hey RM, Lexie, Kiki, Pat , Mceck, MJ, Scarlet, Chris and all (the list was getting long
Mceckk – was kidding about the poke – i hate the poking and nudging lol. I am not in the book club – i haven't read all of Marie's books. But i joined the Marie Force page and the Fatal series page. Its on my name so you cannot miss me
Have some work on my online bookshop to do then i call it a night. Hope you have a great start to the week!
Hey all you lovely ladies! NJBill, I was in NY last week and I too took in a Mets game. Unfortunately, I missed the no-hitter by a few nights, but my brother was lucky enough to see it. Had a great time anyway and got caught in a downpour twice while I was there
. All in all, it was a great time with my family. Lisa, you are right, I am glad to be back home 
.
Hello ! No rain here; sunshine and 100 degrees and wind blowing
Oh well. RM and Lexie, hope you had a great weekend and your business is going gangbusters!! I'm reading, reading, reading, enjoying the airconditioning 
I will be busy for a few days. So it will be up to you all to keep the place running.
LG, how do people do it without the ac??
Scarlet, there is no place like home.
Luci, I hope your week is making you happy. I know you have some big things coming up with your work. Just keep you chin up, smile and pace yourself.
Hey Pat and everyone else. Have a great week, RM & Lexie.
My copy of Act of Valor came today, a day early. And of course, I will not have time to watch it for a few days. Still glad to have it.
See you all later…..
Hi LG, I feel like I never get to say hello to you! Hello, all, and Rm and Lexie. Just stopping by. Looks like maybe.. ( hope hope) Gina's book will be released on June 15th. ! It's called Seducing Cinderella. It's about Reid, a MMF fighter ( I think it's MMF) and Lucie ( not related to our Luci e) who is a physical therapist. the snippets are HOT! We have to run out and support our BBL author!!!
Well, there's my PSA service announcement for today. We love you Gina!!!
Hope your having a good day RM, and Lexie……..miss you…….XO
Hello All – Rain stopped at least for now!
RM and Lexie – hope you and the girls are enjoying the first days of Summer Vacation!
RM, Lexie, guys and dolls, popped in to say hi and good night. Long day today. Looooong week actually.
Kiki hope you enjoy your days with the little one. LG i seem to keep on missing you even on fb.
Loads of luck with your book Gina! Tnx Pat for keeping us updated.
Hi everyone; Pat, Luci, Kiki, where's Diane? Rm and Lexie!!
FYI; if you saw the pic I posted on romanceman FB about forgetting to tuck in the nut. . . well, FB slapped my hand on that one! I got it off FB!!! Oh, well. Somebody turned it in. I'm missin' RM on this thang, hope he's doin well
Hey LG, I'm here lurking and trying to get caught up on books I needed to read so I could review. And what happened to you is why I am trying to post very little on FB and avoid anything they might consider too close to porn. Nobody needs to turn you in. They have software and censors that read posts and delete them. And they can shut down your page. I truly detest FB. But sometimes it is the only way to follow authors. A necessary evil. Be very, very suspicious of FB. Big Brother is watching!
Diane, never even considered it when I posted that pic! I don't want to get shut down cuz I like following the pages I follow. So yea, not much posting for me! I do get alot of info on upcoming books, you're right about that. I, too, am reading lots right now. Did you know that right now Venus is crossing the sun? Really! don't look if you want your sight though
Well, here's Pat eating her words…maybe iT's Venus crossing the sun??. Gina's book won't be that early. Sorry everybody for getting your hopes up! I'm really disappointed too.
Not only do we have FB lurking….but my daughter commented to me about all the half naked men on my site! I blocked TRM posts, but Jill Shalvis and Susan Mallery always have pictures up. I said to her, but aren't they hunky? Her reply was " MOM"! Oh well. Saw your post at R& R today. good one RM.
Good night everyone …..Morning Luci…….
We here in PA were so cloudy all day and now it is 9 pm so the sun is down. We really didn't stand a chance of seeing it. I wonder if this is the beginning of the Mayan end of the world?!
The University Of Pennsylvania Museum in Philadelphia is hosting an exhibit on Mayan artifacts and how people are misinterpreting this whole end of world thing. I have to get my butt there to see it. It's a great museum. Check it out if you ever get to Philly.
Diane is a Ho’
Morning Pat and all. Preparing for a press conference – the first i ever organised. So i am tense. I always am at the launch of a campaign. Hope all goes well
Luci you will do great!
Thanks for the sunshine RM!
You are awesome!
We have lost many family members to cancer. If any cancer can be stopped it will certainly be a victory! Great idea.
Hi RM and Lexie, It's Wed. again! Cloudy and rainy in N.C. for another day. Hi Luci!!! Gosh, your already heading toward evening. I have read some great books lately, ready to give you some recommendations, and some reviews RM.
Hope you, Lexie and the girls are fine……..miss you. XO
Good Morning! A cool front blew in yesterday and it was 78 degrees!! It was wonderful
Today is still cooler than a usual June day in Las Vegas. Sorry you guys are getting so much rain 
Hi Rm, Lexie, getting ready for a summer of book reviews. Wish me luck
Good luck Luci! I am sure it will be wonderful!!
RM and Lexie – hope you both and the girls are having a great summer!
The press conference went well thank God, thanks for the good wishes!
Happy Thursday to all!
And to you Luci!!! The eggs have hatched, pics to follow!
Hello RM, Lexie and all. Finally a sunny day here in N.C.! I have my first aqua yoga class this afternoon! I can hear you laughing RM! Just giving my daily shout. Hope all is well in your world……XO {{hugs}}
Ok RM, I've heard of 'canoodling', but ' noodling' ?Have you taken Lexie noodling lately???
Just stopping in to say hello and that I hope all is well in RM's and Lexie's world. This is probably the only self-maintaining blog I've ever seen! Amazing, but really neat, too, that in spite of RM's time off (why do I think of a time out for a misbehaving little kid?) the blog continues to, well…blog!
I'm writing. Just checked in to say hello all.
Thought the same thing Kate.
Hope you and Lexie are doing good and life is settling a bit.
Pat, I think aqua yoga sounds great! No hard floor. Let us know how it goes!!
Just stopping to say Hi to everyone!
Hope your upcoming weekend is looking good.
Take care RM, Lexie and everyone!!
Kate, not only self maintaining, but I would say pretty well behaved also. No sponsors dropping off because of bad behavior.
Hi everyone! Rm, Lexie Hi! This is a great group of people that have come together and kept this website active, day after day. RM brought em all together. Thanks RM.
Its still somewhat cooler here than usual 
Although its heating up more every day.
Luci, so happy your press conference went well! Hope you can relax for the weekend
We're smiling RM……:-)
LG here it's gotten hotter earlier this year. Did not think that was even possible
. Press conference generated some good buzz for us that will hopefully spill off to tomorrow's public information meetings. So its a busy weekend for me.
Hope your muse is working fine Kate.
Hiya Rm, Lexie, Kiki, Pat and all.
Luci, its heating up again this week. I drive by an outdoor temperature sign and today it said 98 degrees. Last week one day it said 78 degrees at the same time of day! Incredible! Guess its going to be a hot sticky summer for you in Malta. I know I have the 'dry' heat, but really, when it is over 105 degrees, does it really matter??
HI RM, Lexie!! I solved my book issue, no worries
!!!
Love to all!!
Hi everyone!
Have a great weekend! I'll be working OT 36hrs.
Its going to be in the 90s here as well. Thats usually the temp in July and Aug. Summer is definitely here.
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Hello RM and Lexie, hope your having a good weekend.
Gina has her site up and almost running. yeah! Diane and I have two names now, BBL and Maxwells Mob!!! Lots of exciting things going on. Lexie , she has some yummy pictures up! Just my daily shout,..I'm here ….XO
Yes, Pat, we do seem to be some of the charter members of our fangirl romance clubs. Which cracks me up because one of my favorite quotes by Groucho Marx is : Please accept my resignation. I don’t care to belong to any club that will have me as a member.
Hiya all! RM, Lexie, Pat, Kiki, Diane, LG. Hope you are having a great weekend.
Yep its going to be sticky this summer – already is. I did a brazilian hair treatment yesterdaythat is supposed to remove frizziness for a couple of months. Well its day 2 and i have these little hairs sticking out at the top – grrr – guess it did not work this time
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Going to bed early again – Important event coming up tuesday – conference and launch for GPs. Wish me luck! I need it!
Hi RM, Lexie, fellow BBLs, everyone else who stops by to see what we are up to *waving*
BTW, do you know what a 'Brazilian' is in the US?? Its a full wax job on all pubic hair. I thought at first you were telling us about your wax job !!!!! 
Good Luck Luci
Wish there were emoticons on this website
RM, I have a review of Kate D. 's new release . Emailing . . .
I am testing this to see if it works. LG is the coolest chick ever.
MADE ME LAUGH!
Wow, the new site looks fantastic!
Thanks Sheri!
Hi!!! Wow, what a place!! It’s not pink though? I guess we’re testing….so test…test…Hope Lexie got my reviews…….
There will be no pink Pat and yes we got your reviews. As soon as we get this site going we will post them
Like the new digs
Hi all
Awesome! this embedded reply stuff is not fun to find all the comments though! I love the colors.
Where is today’s post?? wasn’t there gonna be a daily post??
RM, did you receive my review?
Love ya’ll!
Yes LG I received your review and will post it soon. I don’t know what you mean about the embedded posts though. Post are coming. I need to talk about male hugging
Wow! This looks awesome — great job!!
New site is pretty awesome! Miss the blog and RM’s unsolicited thoughts on random subjects! RM- hope you and Lexie have enjoyed some time together and with the family. Miss you much! (((((HUGS)))))))
Good Morning RM, and everyone.
The new site looks great!
I love this!!! Thanks for your reply RM. This has got to be easier for you too!
Good morning all, and afternoon to Luci. I actually feel like I’m talking to someone. OK RM, Male hugging is an ok topic..( like you need my permission HA). I thought you meant hugging in general. So, I’ll be quiet now…LOL.
Love to Lexie………
I do love the page I get when I go to the old web address. “somewhat embarrassing” !!! Its great!!!!
Males hugging males??
Cannot see the new site well from my mobile but from the little i see its looking good.
My first GP conference organised and ready and a huge success!! Yay! All the stress was worth it.
Night all, hope your Tuesday is great!
Congratulations Luci!
Thanks!
RM, your blog is saying Howdy when I log in. That kind of freaks me out.
I know it says it to me too, like we’re friends
I have a vixen as my gravatar. Pretty tricky, huh? I could not find a picture of one giving a male fox a blow job so this is as close to my initials as it gets. Plus, this is totally a family site. (Did you know that a fox is a mammal?)
That’s a fox? I thought it was a pussy.
Man I wish they would straighten out the password thing….want a gravitar……night all
Well, apparently I now have two usernames, and two passwords, and neither work!!!!!!! HELP Rob
Pat this have been fixed. Are you still having trouble.
Hi RM-Remy and Lexi…Testing out the snazzy new blog happenings and to see if my avatar will show up. Received the email from WordPress “…Someone requested that the password be reset for the following account: http://theromanceman.com” so I reset my password.
I like your avatar
Yes, thanks,as of now I am in HOWDY land!! Now to find my gravitar. Hope all is well at your house RM. Cloudy and rainy here again. Talking hubs to airport, just me for three days! Yippee!!!
Hello Luci!!! Be back!
Morning all. Hope you have a great day.
Just checking to see if I can still post. Love the new look, RM. Also love the idea of males hugging males topic.
Thanks Cris.
Forgot to ask…RM what is the name of your city?
Orlando
I meant the name of RM’s fictitious city – you know, like Batman has Gotham City because that is what the background reminds me of.
. Say hi to Lexie for me.
Good morning RM, everyone.
Have the grandson here for 2 days. So busy playing video games and building his Lego Millinium Facoln.
I finally had a few minutes to do my gravitar.
Will check back later.
Morning!! Diane I love your vixen!! I don’t see how to upload a gravatar. Help, anyone?
LG go to gravatar.com and follow the instructions it is simple. even i was able to do it
Thanks LG!
it won’t let me use Lady Godiva. I’ll work on it later.
Thanks, Have a Great Day!
well, I have a gravitar, not terribly happy about it, but it will do for now. I hated looking at the bald headed creature!
There were nest parts and flowers on the porch. Husb figures some kind of predator bird got them. Which makes me really happy about staying alone here, knowing there are predator birds on my porch!!! Just saying hello, and checking my gravitar. I think we’re getting it RM…. slowly but surely!!! Be back…..
Have sad news for the baby bird watchers, especially Scarlet. something raided the nest last night, and there gone!
I have an announcement. I am an auntie again. My nephew’s wife just had a lovely little girl named Lia yesterday. She is precious delight, and my sister-in-law and brother-in-law (grandparents) are delighted! The grandparents are currently touring NASCAR races in the US at the moment. Through the powers of FB, they have pictures of the new bundle of joy the same as everyone else.
Congrats! Where is your frog avatar?
Whoa! You just set this new stuff up a few days ago. Watch it, Mr I-don’t-know-how-the-fuck-FB-works.
Well, that Gravatar took forever for me. Finally got ‘er done though. What do ya think?
Pat, do you need picture ideas??
Very nice!
You tell everyone else that their gravatar is nice but you say mine looks like a pussy. You suck!
That doesn’t mean it isn’t nice
LG…perfect!! What a beautiful horse for Lady Godiva!!!! Rm suggested I use a picture of Scout from TKAM. But I don’t know how to get it as my avatar. When I went to Word press I couldn’t get it to show me pics. Boy, do I sound winey tonight! Sorry… Maybe I’ll start fresh tomorrow! Night everyone. SOOO glad we’re in a new home RM..love to Lexie.
Pat just save that picture to your computer and upload it to avatar.
Pat, I will look for a pic like that for you. Kindof a rag tag skinny 10yr old right?
I am reading About Last Night, and I’m at the part that is ripping my heart out!! Gotta go try and get her out of her self-loathing. Night
Hey, everybody like my new avatar??? Thanks RM!
For those who might not know, it’s Scout, from To Kill a Mockingbird.
That’s me…Pat/Scout!!
Never read the book but nice Avatar Pat.
Hello all hope you are having a great day!
Settling down to watch Italy Croatia game from Euro 2012.
Luci you need an avatar and it should be shoes
This is me we are talking about. I would need a How to….. for Dummies list with clear steps is very simple English.
just go to gravatar.com and follow the instructions. It is simple.
Huh, simple he says.
I work in oncology and see the effects that cancer has on families everyday. My heart goes out to you. I think it is a very noble thing you are doing with this. Your sister would be very proud of you, I’m sure.
Thanks Tinar!
I have misgivings about registering because i absolutely do not want to add to my email load by receiving emails when someone posts. I manage fine by checking the blog every so often. If i register can i choose not to receive emails?
Luci, I don’t receive e-mails and I’m registered. I think you have to pick RSS feed or something. I agree, I would just rather check back when I have time to read. Have a wonderful evening/ night!
Good afternoon everyone
Pat, love your avatar! It was a great book!
I finally understand that the gravatar username is not connected to Romanceman username. I think it goes by email to send the avatar here, b/c it was here as soon as I got it selected!
I’m not getting any emails from this site either. Pat, maybe you’re right about needing to sign up for RSS too. ?? Do you know if thats true RM?
I think you have to subscribe LG. Rob put a subscribe button on the page and I think that is what works.
RM, when I am logged in, my page says ‘(Un)Subscribe to Posts’
Its still a puzzle. I’m cool though. Actually not. Its fucking hot here today. Like a dry sauna outside.
Hmmmm.
Okay, I’m getting frustrated. I tried to sign onto Gravatar with my WordPress name and password. It works to sign here, but not there – says its incorrect. HELP!
Mylilypad- my friend, I had the same problem. This username/password is not for wordpress. Pick another one. It won’t affect this blog username, but I imagine any wordpress stuff we do will be under that username, so choose carefully. Also, no spaces in the name, I finally realized that was my problem finding a name.
To RM….did you see Act of Valor? It’s out on video, and I just watched. I would think being Navy it would be your type of movie. I have to go get some advil, I have such a headache from crying!
Yeah Pat, I liked it a lot.
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Just wanted to drop in and say hello to everyone!
I’m on a reading binge, so I gotta go read some more….Peace out! 
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